Dear Men/Women of the World--
It has recently come to my attention that given the fast-paced nature of our society, we’ve let go of any value for traditional ways of life--That somewhere along the way; we forgot what our word was worth. Let me give you one example: For about the fourth time this week, I have had a conversation (four completely different people) based around whether or not you should be with someone, when your eye tends to wonder to other individuals—now, I’m not just talking the occasional glance…No, we’re talking the whole “keeping this person tied down while I explore other options” type of shenanigans. If you think this is kind of behavior is acceptable? Then you probably shouldn’t be in a relationship at all.
Let your mind wonder to the stories of our grandparents—they met, fell in love, and were married…To be with each other and only each other forever. Where is THIS type of mentality? No wonder the divorce rate is so high. We treat any type of commitment, like a test drive of a vehicle we are “ok” with, but shouldn’t really be spending $30,000+ on it if we aren’t sure we like it. Let me be clear, not everyone has this problem…some people are happily married or just even faithfully committed to one person—but for the most part? I see the opposite. I see people who have become so convinced that there’s always something better out there, they forgot to just appreciate what they have—and continually search for greener pastures.
Do you know what happens to people with type of mentality? Generally, they are the people who end up devastated when their partner wises up to this and goes “um, I’m no one’s silver medal—I’m out.” That, or they become so overwhelmed by their own guilt, they turn into a psycho and continually accuse anyone who ever loves them, of being the unfaithful one in the relationship—which eventually pushes the other person away. Either way? Not good.
After about the age of 22, I became tuned in to this little game, and decided to never let any person make me feel that way. Like I’m not good enough…or that let their own infidelity issues make me feel like I’m always the one doing something wrong. I’m done. I have serious issues with people who pull this kind of crap. Now—what if you are the exception? What if you are the person who has a great relationship with someone, and you meet someone so perfect for you, you commit to fully end everything with this original person, and pursue something better. Well? Good luck to you. I would suggest making sure it is worth it, and that the other person understands this is not your NORMAL type of behavior, because this could cause other problems down the road.
Humans are creatures of habit, yes? If you have a habit of never being satisfied, or always searching for something better—what would stop you from doing it in a new relationship? Exactly…NOTHING. For the sake of this new person, I hope they figure it out pretty freakin’ quick.
What’s the point in this rant? Ok, I will let you in on something. There might come a day, when you meet someone who is totally worth your time…your effort…your love. If you continue to play these little games you have become accustomed to, you might just end up losing them. If that doesn't phase you? Good, let them go. They deserve better than you, anyways. They deserve a romance to last through the ages --the type of values our grandparents enstilled in us. Someone who believes in love, and commits to fully honoring the words "I love you," each and every time they utter them. Bottom line: Even if a Disney romance is unobtainable, a really great one, is not.
Signed,
The Girl Who Will NEVER Be Any Man’s Silver Medal
