~**Kara's Bucket List::: 1-50**~

1. Dance the Argentine Tango physically in Buenos Aires, Argentina – while there, purchasing authentic Comme Il Faut tango shoes.


2. Admit to people the things I’m thinking/feeling my pride won’t let me say…like “I miss you,” “I’m sorry,” and “This honestly has nothing to do with you; this is my own insecurity…” -- not caring about the outcome, just being content with the fact that they know.

3. Complete a Masters of Science degree.

4. Admit when I’m wrong instead of fighting to prove a point.

5. Fall in love in a really no-strings-attached, unconditional kind of way that makes my heart hurt.

6. Rely less on my friends to entertain me so I have to take chances on love.

7. Allow myself to be less OCD and let it go when people move stuff around in my apartment.

8. Complete a home improvement project that is functional, yet aesthetically pleasing – without the help of another person.

9. Write a song that touches someone’s heart.

10. Show my affectionate side more.

11. Learn to let things go (even when I really don’t want to…)

12. Go on a road trip, headed nowhere, just to create memories along the way.

13. Live life as though it’s about the journey, not the destination.

14. Share a kiss so passionate it takes my breath away.

15. In a relationship -- spend an entire day in bed, getting to know each other without having any plans or caring as the entire day slips away.

16. Treat each memory as a blessing. Treat each fight as a lesson. Above all, treat others like at any moment, I could lose them.

17. Go one day without using a cell phone, because I want to, not because I lost/broke it.

18. Forgive others for hurting me – forgive myself for hurting others, making an active effort not to in the future.

19. Be the exception.

20. Write actual letters to my family that have to be mailed and hand delivered the old fashioned way.

21. Keep a journal of memories, good and bad, to document all the important milestones in my life.

22. Realize there’s a reason we all have a conscience – because we did/said something WRONG.

23. Tell/show people how much they mean to me.

24. Eat food that sounds/looks totally gross – just to say I’ve tried it.

25. Cry when I really want to.

26. Avoid crazy/scary car crashes.

27. Treat others like I want to be treated.

28. Practice patience – daily.

29. Try to maintain a healthy diet, but still order Tiramisu once in a while.

30. Laugh at one thing, at least, everyday.

31. Leave for work early enough in the mornings where I can relax and not worry about traffic, because I have plenty of time.

32. Appreciate small gestures like people holding doors, letting me squeeze in long traffic lines, and offering to buy to me a drink.

33. Let people with less items cut in front of me at the grocery stores – especially when I have no where to be.

34. Sing, loudly, in the car after a really long/bad day.

35. Stay in contact with old friends, even if it means driving long distances to re-connect with them.

36. Learn how to get around without a GPS.

37. Remind my mom how much I love her and I’m glad I turned out like her, every holiday that you are supposed to send a card.

38. Remember to send cards on appropriate holidays/birthday/anniversaries.

39. Never underestimate the healing power of a smile.

40. Feel empowered being alone, but open to the idea of someone too good to pass up.

41. Drink really dirty martinis with my girls, even though it’s 70% olive juice, just because it makes us feel better (well that night, at least. Haha)

42. Agree with my friends when they brag about how awesome their children are – even if they are wretched.

43. Always feel obligated to sing songs by bands like “Salt-N-Peppa” and “Boyz II Men” when they come on the radio.

44. Always keep my toenails painted.

45. Go to the movies, and watch an entire movie ALONE.

46. Be happy for my friends when they are excited about their relationships, even if I’m not in one.

47. Always offer the last bit of anything I’m sharing with a friend, to them.

48. Appreciate the talents of my friends, especially if it’s something I’m not good at.

49. Wear lingerie to bed, when I’m sleeping alone, just to feel good.

50. Love. Life. No matter what.

"If love is blind, why is lingerie so popular?..."

Roadtrippin’- so the Eva-nator and I packed up our bags and headed down to BFE the ‘ol historic town of Coffeyville, KS (you know you’re glad it wasn't you jealous.) We took a tour of “Death Alley” and the original Condon Condom Bank woulda been been a much cooler name Bank where the Dalton gang was gunned down by the townspeople of Coffeyville on October 5th, 1892. Why is this relevant? Well, it’s not…but it was passing the time FUN. Check out the pics she took on my facebook – they are definitely a good time.


We got up on Sunday morn’ and headed down to even further into BFE Afton, OK to visit my step bro, his wife, their two kids (nothing cuter than hearing “Guess what, Aunt Kara?!”), and the rest of my family (there was a lot of alcohol involved, do not ask me who shit on, or around, the coats all was present…) We sat on the dock all day, drank cold beer, and definitely had a great time. Later that evening, Sara took us to a local bar (yeah, you can still smoke in bars in Oklahoma, so all of you who make fun of that state need to re-evaluate your life plan…) and we warded off creepers the entire time danced the night away.

Heading back yesterday evening, I decided I was going to update my blog today. What would I write? I had no idea. So, I’ve decided I will write about the topic of conversation that my family insists to nag me about every time i'm home came up while sitting around the dinner table with my parents.

Parents: “How’s your dating life going and please leave out the sex part?”

Me: “You always ask this…”

Parents: “So, you’re saying you aren’t dating because you're kind of a bitch?”

Me: “No?....I am busy every night. Mondays- I have Tango, Tuesdays- I play trivia, Wednesdays – “I normally hang out with Becker/Eva/some combo of friends or watch Soca Duo, Thursdays – Whoever I didn’t hang out with the night before, I normally do and then go watch Hopper play, Fridays (if I’m not out of town) – Normally stalk the bar The Disappointments are playing at with Eva, Saturday – O’Dowd’s with the crew til we are so incoherent we realize the bar is closed, Sunday – Drunk Club/Club Ballroom. I’m pretty busy”…

Parents: “But…we’re talking about dating and we're scared you're gonna end up an old  hag and totally alone…”


Here’s what I’ve decided. Until I’m steadily dating someone and am, somewhat chosing marriage over being a cat lady, headed in a marriage direction-- my parents are going to think I’m still but bitch and terribly lonely. I have a gay, (Oh, Becker...you are a mess) the greatest group of friends, write my music/play my instruments, read multiple books per week, and have developed a new love for dance classes –I’m good. Somehow…this is not what the parentals want to hear (although, their whole "Guys may come and go, but a Becker is forever" saying is pretty cute!)

For all of you who didn't take plan B have found love, children, and mood enhancers patience…well, good for you. Me? I’m 25 and still like the Disney Channel. As much as I pretend to want a husband, children, and stability – I’m much more willing to wait for it all to fall into place. Rushing is nowhere on my list of priorities right now.

What is on my list of priorities?Shopping Dates. I’ve decided random dates are fun. Getting to know people while you sip cocktails or go mini-golfing – who cares, dates are fun. Don’t confuse this with relationships – I mentioned nowhere that I’m rushing into DATING, I just said, I miss going on dates. Random side note; if I were going on dates with someone totally awesome who was on the same train of thought as me, multiple dates/dating are not being ruled out here…

Brings me to my next point – what type of guy am I looking for? Good question. A male version of me Smart – insanely smart (nerdy is hot, and totally my favorite always a plus), dry sense of humor, down-to-earth, laid back, willing to hang out with my group of friends for random weekend shenanigans, loves music, down for a good debate but willing to lose haha, likes cartoons, knows when to be serious, knows when NOT to be serious, willing to cook for me, equally as willing to try my cooking, passive (b/c I’m totally not at all...haha), understands my non-slutty physical boundaries (that’s a tough one so I feel like most people have to ask for a “point of clarification” i.e. I'm not hoping into bed with you), and crazy fun. Not crazy. Crazy is NOT good (nor is it a package deal, crazy + anything just = crazy.)

I kind of feel like I just signed up for e-harmony on my own blog. That’s scary, isn’t it?... You get my point. After an awesome summer full of life changing experiences, I’m ready to try something new. ~K